Parents serve as a major influence in the career selection and growth of a child. The support and confidence which they give, is a major stepping stone for a child to choose the right path. At the tender age when he/she is in high school and at the verge of choosing a stream for oneself, parents need to be with the child , understand him/her and accordingly take a decision.
In this tough time, it is also important to take care of the following points which will help you take a better choice. Let’s begin.
1. Be patient and encouraging
Dear Parent, be an encourager to your child because there are many critics out there in this competitive world. There might be instances when you feel that the choice your child is making might not be good but give him/her the time to figure out.
Maybe your child has an aptitude for that kind of work. Be patient with him/her and let him/her explore. It is for his/ her betterment.
2. Support Gender Equality in Education
“Ladkiyan pilot nahi banti “beta”, kuch aur socho”. Why? Ask yourself why should you limit your child due to his/her gender. Times have changed but it’s sad that still in some families, parents don’t support their children pursue their dream career.
Why can’t a boy take arts in 11th and study painting? Or Why can’t a girl take PCM and become an astronaut? They can if they have an interest in such fields and can do good . As a parent, you should figure out whether your child has those capabilities or not. If the child is capable, please don’t bring in the gender game and let him/her just fly!
3. Do Your Homework!
As a parent, your time has begun. Your child is discovering his interests and passions and you have to be there. Start reading relevantly about the stream your child is interested in and suggest some courses which could help your child perform better.
Try to introduce your child to someone who belongs or is related to the stream he is interested in so that he can learn about the practical aspects of the career.
Consult a career counselor or any medium that can help you ease out your issues. We at CPSTOWN, pledge to help you out with the best career guidance.
Always have a backup plan because you have very limited time.
4. Your child is not an extension of you everywhere
As a parent, it is essential to understand that though it’s your child, he/she isn’t your replica. If you are a successful businessman that doesn’t mean your child can also be a businessman. Or if you’re a skillful doctor, it’s doesn’t mean that he/she too can be a doctor. Excessive parental interference can negatively affect child’s future. Always remember that your child is capable of performing wonders.
Don’t just restrict him/her by just imposing your choices.
Many times, we desire from our children to do all that we weren’t able to do in our times, which we couldn’t succeed in. But that only crushes the child and his/her performance in future. Her/his performance will definitely decrease.
5. Listen to All, but do what is right
It’s generally observed that parents do get influenced by what the people around say to them. “Paisa bahut hai doctary mei, Raju ko doctor banana”. What if Raju likes studying business and commerce? What if Raju isn’t at all inclined towards studying medicine?
It is good to discuss with people but you should always do what’s right for your child. Just because you can earn money in any particular field because someone told you doesn’t guarantee success of your child in that field. Having unrealistic expectations will always make you sad in the end. It’s much better to understand the child and his/her aptitude than learning from others about your child’s future.
6. Collective Decision
You should take your final decision collectively. Your child should also have the right to take decisions. You should open the communication grounds for your child so that he/she can share with you everything.
The decision that you take should be of product of your child’s preference and your research. As a parent, you need to believe in your child and take care of her/him.
If your child chooses a stream according to your choice, he/she may not succeed. But if your child chooses the right stream according to his choice and your understanding, he can surely perform wonders in it.
So try to be companions to your children and choose collectively so that you can help and not pressurize them.
You are your child’s guiding light. You are his facilitator in this journey. Allowing your child take his/her decisions, you are helping her/him take the first step of adulthood.